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What to expect in your first session with a Professional Dominatrix  

Or more specifically… what to expect in your first session with London based Pro Domme, Mistress Charlotte Douleur.

 

Written by Her (very) devoted servant.


professional Dominatrix, Mistress Charlotte photographed with her himbo and Poppy Scarlett

This is a little post either for those who are relatively new to Femdom and contemplating visiting a professional Dominatrix, or perhaps for those who have had some experience but who have never had a session with Mistress Charlotte Douleur. If you've got this far it should go without saying, but She is a truly magnificent, fiercely intelligent, naturally dominant, a spectacularly beautiful Woman, and it is worth doing everything possible to arrange a session and spend time with Her. You won't regret it. 

 

Hopefully you've had a chance to read the blog entry "How to arrange a session with Mistress Charlotte" and have gone through the steps outlined. I won't repeat all of that here but just to highlight that Mistress Charlotte holds video consultation calls with potential submissives. These are an important opportunity to get to know Her, ease nerves and build trust ahead of a meeting. Even if you're contemplating an in-person session but are still unsure as to whether to go ahead and nervous, then I would encourage you to arrange a video consultation and just see where that leads. Just fill in Her application form and state you’re not quite ready for a session but would like to arrange a phone or video call. You will be expected to pay a tribute for Her time. Despite being so naturally superior, Mistress Charlotte is also incredibly warm and approachable and takes a genuine interest in Her potential submissives. 

 

Additionally, it might also be worth taking some time to chat to Mistress Charlotte online. This is a good way to ease into things and over time can also complement in-person service. It might be the least daunting first step for anyone potentially interested in building a meaningful connection and again who knows where it might lead. It is VERY important if speaking to Mistress Charlotte on OnlyFans that you are NEVER to mention meeting in person/session etc. It is against the terms and conditions of the site and can lead Her page being shut down without warning! Only mention this in the application from on her main website.

 

Mistress Charlotte takes the time and genuine enjoyment to understand you, your interests, fetishes, kinks and generally to get inside your mind. If you are relatively new to BDSM, you yourself may not be totally sure of what you would like to experience, and Mistress Charlotte is extremely adept at working with you to together explore the kink world. Ahead of any session Mistress Charlotte will have taken time to tailor the session uniquely to you, all while remaining true to Her own interests and style. Further, everyone has different boundaries, these can be very variable and it is important to note that Mistress Charlotte is very respectful of boundaries and committed to providing a safe-space for Her submissives to explore who they are and build a connection with their Mistress in the way in which they are most comfortable. 

 

Here are some practical considerations to be aware of for anyone who is going to their first session. 

 

You will have already gone through with Mistress Charlotte your interests and boundaries. After your video call She will send you a form to fill out a form with these and any relevant health information. You should expect to confirm your session the night before or morning of to receive the full address (She will have already told you the nearest station) and go over any last minute details. You should ensure that you are clean and have showered that morning and you may be anyhow be asked to shower. Never decline this if you’re told to do so. On arrival, in the event you haven't totally prepaid you should be ready to hand over any remaining tribute unprompted. You may also like to bring Her a small (or large) gift. Mistress Charlotte will then give you the opportunity to discuss your limits and boundaries again. The session will typically begin after you have returned undressed from the bathroom (unless Mistress Charlotte has you undress in front of Her for Her amusement of course). 

 

A first session can involve nerves. I think that these are natural and part of the enjoyment and if possible should be embraced. I would also suggest viewing a first session as the potential beginning of a journey. It might not go anywhere or it might lead somewhere very unexpected and again that is part of the excitement. It's unlikely, although not impossible, that any first meeting is going to be totally perfect and I think approaching it with an open-mind and reasonable expectations is a good way to get the most out of it. 

 

The "play" might be very physical or purely psychological. It could be sensory deprivation and bondage or it could be whips and canes, it could be CBT or pure worship, it could be objectification or humiliation or maybe there's a very particular fetish you're interested in exploring - the activities of any session are potentially very varied, the common theme is respect for each other, for boundaries and good communication. 

 

It is worth noting that Mistress Charlotte is very generous with Her time. However, if you would like extra time at the end to shower or to discuss the session there and then, you should agree this ahead of time so that She can incorporate it into the time that you have agreed. It is polite to send a thank you message and some feedback post the session and that is important if you are to develop your interactions with Mistress Charlotte. 

 

My first session with Mistress Charlotte was a long time ago but I can remember it like yesterday. It is not so much what She did (though there was plenty of training and discipline involved) but how She did it. By the time of our first session, I had already met Mistress Charlotte briefly a couple of times and we had exchanged a number of messages. She had already built a picture of me as a person and as a submissive and that allowed our first "play" meeting to be instantly meaningful and memorable. Her attention to detail and work ethic is combined with spontaneity and playfulness to make nothing seem forced. Over the last twenty years, I have been fortunate enough to have had sessions with a number of professional Mistresses in both the UK and the US, and Mistress Charlotte totally stands out with Her powerful pure Dominance, perceptiveness, lightness of touch and both internal and external beauty. 

 

I hope that this was somewhat helpful and that your kink journey is fulfilling and fun. 

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